This is Blog number five on this topic; I would like to highlight the following. Let’s not forget the premise I introduced you to on Part one of this series.
A mentoring coach is to help you:
- With your role; what you do in life.
- With your goals; what you are accomplishing in life.
- With your soul; what you are becoming in life.
Choosing your mentoring coach is one of the most important decisions you will have to make in your lifetime, therefore, make sure you make a good choice when doing it.
So far we have covered the following characteristics:
- The ability to see beyond the present.
- A good handle on the gift of discernment to evaluate your potential.
- A solid spiritual sense of the process God utilizes to build a leader.
- A mind similar to a compass to determine the direction of those under his mentorship.
- A burning desire to see his protégés (disciples), override his own legacy, by becoming greater than him.
Next one on the list is your mentoring coach needs to be “endowed with a measure of love beyond the limitations of an average man.”
Why do I say this? Because when you are being mentored, you need to know that individual not only has the best interest at heart for you—but also really loves you. During the process of mentoring, there will be plenty of times to disagree, argue your point of view. At times, you will resist the instructions given you to follow. When given the opportunity to do something you may blow it and cause your mentor to get angry at you. These occurrences can be compared to those of a teenager who rebel against his parents. The teen truly believes he is right, and his parents are antiquated and out of touch with the times. When disciplined and corrected the teen will have the tendency to snap back at his parents.
The same process takes place during mentoring. It is during these difficult times of molding and shaping that you need to make sure your mentor truly loves you. It is critical to know love acts as a safety net for you. Not every mentor is equipped with this grace. Some will send you packing the third time you’ve blown it. Others, just deal with you for a while; but then they realize they made a mistake with you and give you walking papers. True mentors, on the other hand, have an enduring capability to love their protégés.
Jesus was the perfect example. Judas betrayed him time and time again. At the end of the journey, he knew he was up to no good. Yet he gave him the opportunity to correct the wrong he had done and do the right thing. Jesus, let him loose and told him.
“What you are about to do, do quickly. But no one at the meal understood why Jesus said this to him.” –John 13:28
In conclusion, true mentors practice the following principle: “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” –John. 15:13
Come back next month for more on mentoring.
Apostle Carlos H. Lopez, Your Mentoring Coach