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Raising Fathers With A Mentoring Heart For A New Generation

fatherless-300x199And so it was, when they had crossed over, that Elijah said to Elisha, “Ask! What may I do for you, before I am taken away from you? ”Elisha said, “Please let a double portion of your spirit be upon me.” 2 Kings 2:9 (emphasis mine)

I like to believe that all fathers have a mentoring heart, but when we look at today’s reality, especially here in America, sadly enough—I must say this is not the case. The American family, when placed under the lens of “dysfunctional” will reflect a high degree of a “dysfunctionally” dysfunctional family. As a result we have a society that wonders around looking for a sense of approval, identity and more than anything to fulfill the vacuum of the heart due to the absence of a father in the home. I think we all know the dreadful consequences of faithlessness. Let me stop right here and cite the good news. In the Scriptures there is a promise from Father God that He will revert the present situation.

“And he will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse.” Malachi.4:6 

I have firsthand experience with what it is to grow up with an absentee father. My father, not by choice but of necessity, due to the kind of work he did, was only home one Saturday of every month for most of my formative years. I remember he used to take me for a haircut sometimes when he was home. This is one of the closest memories of a father-son relationship I have with him. There were others. But this is the one I remember the most. My memory bank does not have a “big-file” stored away on my relationship with him. I loved him! He was a great provider and sacrificed his life so we could have a roof over our heads, but in the process; he also sacrificed a relationship I would have loved to have had with him.

Don’t get me wrong, I thank God for the father I had. I honor him for who he was and for teaching me to be a responsible and dedicated man ad to serve my family; however, I had to learn, on my own, how to be a father to my four kids the best way I knew how. If it wasn’t because of Father God I would have miserably failed this task. I know I am not alone in this category, perhaps you went through similar or worst circumstances.

The truth is, we cannot afford to raise the upcoming generation without the “mentoring heart” of “true fathers”. A good father, natural or spiritual, wants to see their children prosper. He longs to see them doing greater things than they did. There is a desperate need for fathers with a mentoring heart and vision for the 21st century generation. There is too much at stake to leave them wandering around without the necessary instructions, guidance and mentorship needed to become our legacy that successfully leads this changing world!


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Posted by on September 18, 2013 in Mentoring Winners


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The Confidence Issue – Part 2

confidence cat blog“Therefore do not cast away your confidence that has great reward, for you have need of endurance, so that after you have done the will of God, you may receive the promise.” Heb. 10:35-36

All of us at one point or another have been confronted with the reality of trusting God for something. Personally, when I have found myself at this crossroads, I have found the tipping point is always “Confidence.” Confidence in the fact of whether or not God is going to come through for me in the particular situation I’m in. Life is full of moments like these. Let me show you the four fundamental areas in which confidence will be manifested and confront all of us in making the right choice.

  1. Your spirit. This is the real you. Who you really are
  2. Your mind. This is the battlefield of any issue you will confront in life
  3. Your will and emotions. The place where you will form your character to confront life
  4. Body. This is where your spirit live. It will be attacked many times during your life’s journey

We need to learn how to boost our confidence if we are to succeed when confronting the storms of life. The way we answer the following questions will define the kind of confidence we are to have.

  • How well do you know Him?
  • How well do you trust Him?
  • Do you have a personal experience?

First question: Your success will depend on whether you have an understanding on the difference between ginosko and epiginosko. You either have developed a casual (ginosko) or an intimate (epiginosko) relation with Him. The closer your relationship is, the greater the confidence you’ll have. Confidence will always be in direct proportion to your relationship with Him. 

The Confidence Issue – Part 1

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Posted by on September 9, 2013 in Mentoring Winners


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The Confidence Issue – Part 1

818026.TIFLife is a great journey. We all need to pursue it with the least amount of headaches and unnecessary obstacles.

There are things that we can prevent or avoid in this journey if we only understood the need we have of the person called; “Coach” or “Mentor” Let me present to you the following scenario. A teenage gymnast IS on the bar ready to execute his or her routine. What would you say is the greatest need he or she has?

  1. White Powder on her hands?
  2. Know her routine?
  3. Confidence to execute the task?

If you chose answer number three, you are correct. See, the gymnast needs to have the chalk powder on his/her hands and also needs to know the routine, but the greatest need at the moment to execute the task is “confidence”. He or she may have the skill to perform the exercise with a ten, which is the highest score, but without the confidence to do it right, he or she may get less than the desired degree of perfection to win the competition.

The best friend of a gymnast is the “Coach” or “Mentor”, who instills the confidence to perform under stressful circumstances and pressures. The same applies to life. We have challenges, obstacles and storms to overcome daily. We can’t anticipate them or avoid them; they will show up when we less expect them. When we have a “Mentor” who is “coaching” our lives, during these difficult times, we can reach out to him or her and know that we are not alone.

Isn’t it comforting to know, if you are facing the “perfect storm” in the middle of the ocean, that three naval destroyers of the Coast Guard are leading the way? Yes, they can go down too, but the feeling that “you are not alone” reduces the anxiety and fear of the threat. This is why we need a Mentor or Coach. He or She would always make the difference when it comes to the “Confidence Issue.”

If you don’t currently have a “Mentor” Or Coach”, make sure you get a hold of one; it will make your journey less painful and stressful in life.

Apostle Carlos H. Lopez
Your Mentoring Coach

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Posted by on September 3, 2013 in Mentoring Winners